Sunday, March 28, 2021

Spotlight on "Social Fitness:" A film by Anna Pakman

 Written by Kathleen Downes

 

March 25, 2021

 

Over the past year, we’ve all had to adjust to “the quarantine life.” The snacks we left in our now abandoned offices are on their way to becoming ancient ruins. We’ve nearly forgotten about this strange concept called “pants.” We’ve adapted to acting like we are allergic to other humans. Quite simply, since COVID-19 changed everything last March, we are in an alternate…Zoomiverse. 

 

With our lives changed beyond comprehension and our hands raw from Purell, this situation has brought to mind an old saying for when things get absurd—“we may as well laugh or we’d cry.”

 

New York City based filmmaker and digital marketing executive, Anna Pakman, is choosing to laugh. Her upcoming film “Social Fitness” puts a humorous spin on the prospect of adjusting back to “normal” life as the pandemic begins to show signs of easing and explores the hallmarks of pandemic culture, from awkward Zoom weddings to the widespread abandonment of concern about our outfits, through an uplifting and witty comedic lens. 

 

Social Fitness” was created as part of the Easterseals Disability Film Challenge. Founded by disabled actor Nic Novicki in 2014, the challenge provides a platform for new voices in the film industry and strives to amplify diverse narratives around disability. Pakman is excited and thankful that Easterseals is paving the way for her and other disabled professionals.

 

The film features internationally renowned comedienne Maysoon Zayid, known for her viral Ted Talk “I got 99 problems…palsy is just one,” in addition to appearances on General Hospital and Adam Sandler’s You Don’t Mess With the Zohan. Joining her in the star-studded cast are Bree Klauser (Audible Original Phreaks,Apple TV’s SEE), Anita Hollander (National Chair, SAG-AFTRA Performers with Disabilities Committee, Law & Order, FBI: Most Wanted), Liz Simons (Broad City), Eric Stafford (The Blacklist, Alpha House), BJ Lange (Jimmy Kimmel LIVE!), Shashi Bangera (Sesame Street, Kelly & Cal), Mary von Aue, Josey Miller, Sylvia Longmire. On production are JD Michaels of michaels.adams, Liz Pritchard (A & E’s The Employables) and Stefanie Parish. 

 

Both Zayid and Pakman have cerebral palsy and they are joined by a talented and diverse cast including performers with a range of disabilities such as autism, multiple sclerosis, PTSD, osteogenesis imperfecta, and ADHD, among others. Seven of ten people you see in the film have disabilities, while the rest are non-disabled allies.

 

For Pakman, the inclusion of people with disabilities in front of and behind the camera is personal. When asked why disability representation matters so much in her work, she recalls growing up in the 1990s and early 2000s, wondering why no one on TV or in movies “looked like her.”

 

On the rare occasion that people with disabilities were referenced, she told me, the stories told fell into stereotypes, either “super tragic stories of some poor cripple in the news or some super heroic feat that the average person can’t achieve.”  Through her work, she seeks to tell authentic stories of people with disabilities leading ordinary lives. 

 

However, make no mistake, Pakman is emphatic in reminding audiences that performers with disabilities should not only be featured in media about disability, but instead, in all types of media, in all capacities. She states, “People with disabilities can play any role, in front of or behind the camera.”

 

However, the industry has been slow to recognize the talent of the disability community. Pakman spoke of a recent study by the Ruderman Family Foundation which found that despite being about 20% of the population, only about 2% of primetime characters are disabled, and of those, only 5% are played by disabled actors. 

 

The practice of casting non-disabled actors in roles written for a disabled character, sometimes called “cripping up” has caused controversy in the community, most recently with the casting of the non-autistic actress Maddie Ziegler in the title role of Sia’s Music, about a young autistic woman, a casting decision Pakman calls “so offensive.”

 

So-called cripping up has real consequences for performers with disabilities looking to enter the notoriously competitive industry. Pakman says, “when someone who is not disabled is cast in one of the very very few roles actually written for people with disabilities, you deny the opportunity of employment to an actor with a disability.”

 

 Pakman points to the markedly lower employment rate of people with disabilities, which stands at about 31% and has been significantly impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic. Real representation, however, has industry-wide benefits beyond providing jobs to disabled employers. More importantly, Pakman asserts, the casting of disabled performers creates more authentic material that is more enjoyable for all.

 

When naysayers challenge that notion, claiming that disabled actors won’t be marketable, Pakman, no pun intended, doesn’t buy it. She stresses that audiences gravitate towards authentic portrayals and those who don’t believe that they will sell tickets are underestimating the public’s appreciation for real, human stories. She cites the accomplishments of Oscar-winning Marlee Matlin in Children of a Lesser God, a film she argues would not have been nearly as successful if Matlin’s role had not been played by a Deaf woman. Given a pipeline, she says, performers with disabilities are more than capable of working among Hollywood greats. Also coming to mind, she says, is actress Ali Stroker, who won a Tony award for her 2019 performance in Oklahoma! and has since become a household name.

 

Although Pakman and her team are passionate about disability in film, “Social Fitness,” she says, is not just a “disability film.” The project is meant to highlight the universal struggles of the pandemic, and was created with the hope that all people can find a relatable moment in this tale of… wait for it…these unprecedented times. Of her characters, she says, “they are just regular people, who happen to have disabilities, dealing with regular things” from cat obsessions to our collective hesitation to wear anything but sweatpants ever again. “Social Fitness” defies the trope of disabled folks being inspirational for leaving the house. However, Pakman jokes, in these corona times, anyone leaving the house, especially in (gasp) jeans, “kind of is an inspiration.”

 

Although Pakman and her powerhouse cast hope to bring some levity to the situation, she acknowledges that not everything about the pandemic has been sunshine and roses. She describes her own moments of depression, as well as her own fears about medical rationing endangering people with disabilities in a system that does not value our lives. She is “grateful to have the basics: a home, food to eat,” knowing that many have “suffered much more” in the past year. Given the many immensely painful aspects of the COVID-19 pandemic, the quirky, spirited, and delightfully snarky “Social Fitness” aims to deliver the laugh ‘til you snort break so many are craving.

 

While it can be difficult to imagine anything positive about this challenging era, the cast and crew felt excited about the ways in which the pandemic allowed them to try new filmmaking techniques. The film was largely shot on cellphones, which Pakman states now deliver “cinematic quality footage” in a handheld device. The learning curve of making a film in quarantine forced new levels of creativity and highlighted just how essential strong communication is in making a successful project. Quick thinking— and you guessed it—Zoom, enabled collaboration between folks from New York to Los Angeles and Florida. In many ways, a cast and crew of majority disabled people was uniquely prepared for this moment. For people with disabilities, adaptability and innovation are inherent given the constant need to problem-solve and to navigate a less than accessible world.

 

With light-hearted quips about emerging from our Zoom caves, “Social Fitness” hints at the end of corona captivity. However, Pakman warns, the pandemic is still very real and she hopes audiences will come away understanding the importance of mitigation measures like masks and social distancing.

 

She also hopes that the project will encourage the inclusion of disabled folks in the industry and provide more opportunities for her actors. Says Anna, “I’m hoping that when people see someone with a disability, they judge them solely based on their talent and what they say they are capable of.’”

 

To those who are hesitant to welcome performers with disabilities on the stage and the screen, she has a warning: “You will miss out on a lot of talent!”

 

“Social Fitness” is available to stream on the Easterseals Disability Film Challenge YouTube and Facebook pages now!

 

 

Don’t worry; your cat, your homegrown basil, and your sourdough bread are all cordially invited.

 

Social Fitness Movie Poster     
Image: Social Fitness: A film by Anna Pakman. An image of a bandage and the text "It's time to rip the bandage of comfort off the hairy back of complacency." Featuring Maysoon Zayid, Shashi Bangera, Anita Hollander, Bree Klauser, Liz Simons, Mary Von Aue. #SocialFitnessMovie
                  

Friday, March 19, 2021

"On A Scale of 1 to 10": Tarlov Cysts, Chronic Pain, and Me

 It started with a dress. 

 

In the fall of 2018, while trying on a dress for a wedding, I remember feeling like the fabric was pressing on a bad sunburn on the back of my legs. Thinking I had a rash, I went to a dermatologist who found nothing. The weeks passed. The months passed. The odyssey began. Seeing as I already have cerebral palsy (CP), complaining of leg pain in my case seemed fairly unremarkable to most doctors. 

 

“Muscle tension”. “Tight hamstrings”. “Pinched nerve”. “Bursitis”. “You sit a lot”, they mused. 

 

Slowly, casually, it was implied that perhaps it was all in my mind. 

 

I knew this wasn’t just CP. The doctor list grew. The frustration grew. The pain ripped through my skin, to the point where putting on a pair of pants felt like fire. Every transition between sitting and standing became taxing, like an awful pain lightning. Getting on the toilet and off the toilet became a chore. 

 

And harder still, the fact that this “invisible sunburn” gripping my body had no name, but cast itself over everything at once. 

 

Chronic pain changes you. 

 

It rewires you, a silent puppeteer that dictates your movements, if there are any movements at all. It makes the place that has always housed your soul feel unfamiliar, strange. 

 

The body I now lived in felt like it no longer belonged to me. At the same time, the steady beat of my heart reminded me that I was still here, still me, and if getting out of bed was all I could do, that was enough. 

 

With every failed appointment, every “never seen this before…” I grew more and more dejected, uncertain if I should even believe myself about this nameless fury dancing through my nerves. 

 

Rate your pain, they’d say, offering a corny chart of cartoon faces that progressed from looking “vaguely annoyed” to “fully despairing.”

 

And I’d choose one, knowing full well that none of them represent the feeling of being burned from the inside out. 

 

Knowing full well that squishing my untamed pain under one of these cookie-cutter labels is one of the rules. 

 

Chronic pain is quick to teach you the rules.

 

Perform your pain clearly enough that men in white coats see you as worthy of their help.

 Show your pain, but not too much, or they will call you “hysterical,” “dramatic,” even if they only use those words inside their own heads. 

 

The rules require a sweet smile, to ward off the “just think positive!” folks. But don’t smile so much that the men in white coats can decide you “don’t look like a person in pain!” 

 

I wish I could tell them that a person in pain may look like themselves, sound like themselves, “have such a pretty smile!” and still want to curl into ball amid what feels like the wreckage of a former self. 

 

The truth is, the pain storm is constant, but you learn its choreography. Because there are still dogs to be walked. Emails to be answered. Texts to be sent. The cruel reality and the splendid miracle of it all is that life ticks forward even when it feels like the pain may consume you. 

 

When I neared two years since the onset of the mystery pain, I finally convinced a doctor to look at my spine.

 

When the MRI came back, there it was. March 9, 2020. On my sacral nerve roots were a series of neural cysts… that no one had ever heard of.

 

 My initial thought, like many others, was what the ever-loving f*ck is a Tarlov cyst? 

 

Put simply, a Tarlov cyst is a sac of fluid that presses on a nerve root and makes it scream. Some folks with Tarlov cysts have no symptoms at all. 

 

Others have debilitating symptoms ranging from burning, stinging, and limb weakness to pelvic pain, urinary and bowel issues. I fell in the latter category and was just beginning to understand the magnitude of my challenge with a devastating disorder that isn’t even on most people’s medical radar.

 

I quickly learned that many surgeons don’t believe that Tarlov cysts can be symptomatic, if they acknowledge the cysts at all. It was vindicating and validating to have a name for the “invisible sunburn” after nearly two full years of insisting that something was very wrong. 

 

At the same time, it was terrifying to ask “what next?” in the face of a poorly understood disorder that sent lightning through my legs and was evidently unrelated to my CP.

 

 All the while, I couldn’t shake the feeling that if I were a super athlete who suddenly doubled over in pain, my symptoms would have been taken seriously. Instead, I had been too often dismissed, as if my pain as a disabled woman were just a matter of course.

 

 It seems that disabled folks, especially women, are expected to simply accept their physical pain, because “well, you’re in a wheelchair anyway.” That unspoken but ever-present sentiment hurt nearly as much as the zips of fire that pinged off my skin like the signal off an overzealous cell tower.

 

I was fortunate enough to have surgery last October in Sacramento, CA with one of the two surgeons in the United States trained in Tarlov cyst removal. I am fully aware of my tremendous privilege and dream of a world where others who suffer from this disorder can quickly get help.

 

Six months onward, healing is not a linear process. It’s more of a dizzying zig zag. The physical scars of the surgery run through my flesh—but more difficult are the unseen wounds from medical trauma, gaslighting, and the feeling of being a stranger inside myself. 

 

My old spastic, but fairly free movements are gone, replaced with careful, measured steps. Getting out of bed is a lengthy and cautious routine of moving a once unified being part by part as not to perturb my still-frazzled nerves. 

 

I live with the ghosts of past pain episodes; they show up uninvited in the form of involuntary gasps when I move in a way that once hurt. I equally live with the fear that old pain ghosts will come back to life and snatch my hard-won healing. That they will sneak up behind me and show me a true “10” on that infamous pain scale.

 

I feel tremendously better, stronger, and more grateful each day for the opportunity to learn my body’s new rhythm.

 

Still, I am grieving and I think a part of me always will be. Living with a disability, I’ve learned, is a series of rebirths, as wear and tear and achy joints and funny- named cysts no one knows about make irrevocable marks on my earthly dwelling. 

 

Hiraeth is a Welsh concept of “longing for a home to which you cannot return.” I find myself filled with a kind of body hiraeth, a longing to return to a body that takes springier steps, one that doesn’t wince while swinging into bed, one that doesn’t have 6 plates and 12 screws coursing through a fixer- upper spine.

 

I wrestle daily with the struggle to reconcile two contradicting truths. I feel both betrayed by a deteriorated body and utterly in awe of its strength. 

 

No platitudes can lessen the sting of what I’ve lost, but no loss can diminish the wonder of this body’s resilience.

 

Grief and joy can live in the same house. And most times, they do. 

 

I long for a body, a home, to which I can never return…and yet, I listen to the beat of my heart and I know that I never left that body at all. It is changed… but it is still here… and so am I.

 

 One day, it will feel like home again.



Image: Me smiling in a mask and hospital gown, seated in a wheelchair

                                 Image: Me smiling in a mask and hospital gown, seated in a wheelchair